Your Guide to Lingam Massage

If you know anything about tantric sex, you’ve probably heard of tantric massage therapy. Lingam massage is a form of tantric massage focused on gently massaging the penis.

The purpose of a lingam massage isn’t merely to trigger orgasm. Instead, it aims to cultivate a meditative sexual and spiritual encounter.

In this piece, we’ll explain what a lingam massage is, walk through how to give a lingam massage to yourself or a partner, and outline some of the potential benefits of this tantric practice.

What is a lingam massage?

Tantric massage has been used for centuries as a tool to deepen sexual and spiritual awareness.

Unlike some modern, narrow interpretations, tantra is not solely about sex. Tantric massage practices focus on learning to gather sexual energy and savor the pure sensation of pleasure.

Lingam massage—named from the Sanskrit term for “penis”—is a tantric technique that includes massaging the penis and surrounding regions. Areas commonly included in a lingam massage are the:

• penis
• testicles
• perineum (the area between the anus and scrotum)
• and sometimes the prostate

The aim of lingam massage goes beyond ejaculation. The deeper intention is to achieve whole-body sexual and spiritual pleasure.

How to perform a lingam massage

Understanding technique matters for lingam massage, as it does for all tantric bodywork.

Below is a recommended approach for giving a lingam massage to yourself or a partner.

Set the mood

Establishing a welcoming atmosphere and the right mindset helps make a lingam massage enjoyable for you or for both partners.

Before beginning, take time to set intentions and open your mindset. This helps frame the emotional tone of the massage and allows you to experience it as both sacred and sensual.

To create a warm, inviting physical space:

• use clean bedding
• dim the lights
• light a few candles
• play gentle, meditative music

These elements can foster a comfortable, sensual setting before you start the massage.

These elements can foster a comfortable, sensual setting before you start the massage.

Prepare the oils

Massage oils reduce friction and heighten sensation. There are many options, scented and unscented.

For tantric lingam massage, a fragranced oil can deepen awareness and arousal.

Choose a natural, hypoallergenic oil, especially for sensitive skin. Common options include:

• olive oil
• coconut oil
• almond oil

Start slowly

Begin the massage by focusing on peripheral zones such as the:

• lower belly
• upper thighs
• inner thighs

Move your hands with slow, deliberate strokes across the skin, preparing for a sensual experience.

If you are giving the massage and know your partner’s erogenous spots, gently massaging those areas can kindle initial pleasure without rushing.

Keep in mind the point of lingam massage is to proceed slowly and fully savor the sensations.

Work your way up

Next, transition from the outer erogenous areas to the more sensitive regions. Start with the testicles, taking care to massage them very gently.

The perineum can be another tender spot to explore if it’s pleasurable for your partner.

When you’re ready, move to the bottom of the penile shaft and use soft stroking motions. As you approach the shaft’s top and the glans, continue with slow, mindful movements.

Move inside

If it feels right and you have consent, you may include gentle prostate stimulation as part of the lingam massage.

To locate the prostate, slowly insert a finger into the anus and angle it toward the front of the body. Once found, apply light pressure to stimulate the area.

For some people, prostate stimulation can lead to a deeply pleasurable prostate orgasm.

Practice restraint

When you sense orgasm approaching for yourself or your partner, pause and shift attention to another area. This technique, often called edging, can be repeated throughout the session as desired.

If orgasm occurs early, that’s fine. There’s no need to end the massage—continuing can still be very pleasurable after climax.

Savor the experience

Some research suggests certain sexual encounters can create a trance-like state. With lingam massage, full-body pleasure can bring about that meditative feeling, which may seem more spiritual than purely sexual (see a 2016 review).

You can deepen this meditative experience by:

• going slowly
• staying present in your body
• allowing yourself or your partner to embrace both the sexual and spiritual facets of tantric massage

What are the benefits of a lingam massage?

Although lingam massage is a sexual practice, it has advantages beyond pleasure. Lingam massage is thought to:

• Support whole-body healing. Despite its sexual context, tantric methods like lingam massage aim to facilitate healing. Within certain Buddhist frameworks, lingam massage may assist recipients in processing past trauma and aligning with their sexual and spiritual selves.
• Reduce stress throughout the body. Sexual activity benefits the mind and body, including enhanced libido and lower risk of some chronic conditions. A lingam massage blends these sexual benefits with the calming effects of massage therapy.
• Enhance sexual stamina and experiences. Whether you want to build endurance or simply increase sexual enjoyment, lingam massages provide a safe environment to explore these goals.
• Foster spirituality and mindfulness. Fully experiencing the present moment is an act of mindfulness. For those with a spiritual inclination, regular lingam massages can support a mindfulness practice.

Fortunately, this form of tantric massage isn’t exclusive to people with penises. A yoni massage focuses on sensually tending to the vulva, vagina, and associated areas.

Both approaches are meant to be spiritual and sexual experiences, so yoni massage shares many of the same benefits described above.

Where to learn more about tantric practices

If you want to explore lingam massage, yoni massage, or other tantric techniques, Embody Tantra is a useful online source.

For formal training in tantric practices like tantric massage, the Somananda Tantra School provides a range of professional, in-person and online programs.

To locate tantra practitioners or training near you, visit Sacred Eros for more details.

Takeaway

Lingam massage is a tantric massage style that blends sexuality with spirituality to produce an intimate, meditative experience.

When practicing a lingam massage—whether solo or with a partner—the intention is to observe and fully experience pleasure in a near-meditative state.

Regularly engaging in tantric practices like lingam or yoni massage can boost libido, decrease stress, and support healthy sexual exploration.