How to Ejaculate Faster: 16 Things to Try During Sex or Masturbation

Certain measures, like avoiding alcohol and refraining from prostate stimulation, can help you reach orgasm more quickly. If you often struggle to ejaculate, consult a healthcare provider, as it could signal an underlying medical issue.

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Whether you’re aiming for a quickie or want to shorten the time to climax, these suggestions and methods can help you speed up your orgasm for a powerful release.

Here’s how to turn up the heat during solo sessions or partnered encounters.

What you can do beforehand

If your goal is to come sooner, some preparation before the action helps. The following methods and approaches can intensify intercourse or masturbation so it takes less stimulation to reach orgasm.

Practice Kegels

While Kegels are often linked to cisgender women and folks with vaginas, strengthening the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles benefits everyone.

Toning your PC muscles may lead to faster orgasms and better overall climax quality.

A simple Kegel involves tightening and releasing the muscles in your pelvic area.

Put differently, squeeze and relax the muscles you use to stop urination or prevent passing gas.

Once you’ve pinpointed those muscles, hold them tight for 5 to 10 seconds. Relax for 5 seconds, then contract again.

Repeat 8 to 10 times — that’s one set. For optimal results, do three to four sets each day.

Reduce solo sessions

Masturbation is a wonderful way to learn your preferences.

Although some people think masturbating before partner sex prevents premature climax, others notice the opposite effect.

For certain individuals, ejaculating earlier in the day can dampen hormones that fuel sexual desire.

This may lower overall libido and increase the time needed to orgasm.

You don’t need to eliminate solo play entirely. Just scale it back on days when you plan to be intimate with a partner.

That gap between orgasms, along with the anticipation of climaxing again, might help you reach orgasm faster.

Avoid drugs and alcohol

Getting or keeping an erection can be harder under the influence of substances or alcohol. You might also notice dulled sensations.

Put simply, your body may not respond to sexual stimulation as expected.

This makes it more difficult to orgasm quickly — or sometimes at all.

When it’s time, make sure your head is in the game

A large part of sexual satisfaction happens in the brain — the one above your shoulders.

With a mind-over-body approach, clearing distractions and concentrating on the present moment can help you climax sooner.

Stress, worry, and tiredness can all pull you out of the moment.

That detachment can delay orgasm and make it harder to come.

If you’re feeling unfocused or mentally checked out, try mindful breathing.

This can help drop intrusive thoughts and bring your attention back. Deep breaths also promote circulation, which may heighten sensation.

Try a different position

Repeating the same routine every time — whether masturbating or having sex — can become dull.

That boredom can translate into reduced sensation and delayed climax.

If you’re masturbating, skip your usual standing or lying-down approach and experiment.

For instance, try being on all fours and thrusting your hips while you touch yourself. Leaning against a counter or sitting in a chair are other options.

If missionary is your go-to intercourse position, mix things up with something unexpected.

Positions like reverse cowgirl or doggy style may provide fresh sensations and excitement.

Try a different motion or pace

If you always go full speed, you might tire before you finish. Slow down and savor it — increased awareness can actually help you orgasm sooner.

Conversely, if you tend to move slowly, change your pace to keep building tension and arousal.

This advice applies to solo play as well as anal, vaginal, or oral sex.

Altering motion or rhythm helps keep things engaging for both you and your partner.

Stimulate different areas

Focusing solely below the belt overlooks many sensitive zones across the body.

The skin contains numerous erogenous areas that provide significant pleasure.

During masturbation, you can stimulate these zones yourself: massage your legs, nipples, inner thighs, and lower abdomen.

While one hand works your penis, use the other to cup your testicles or press the perineum, the spot between anus and scrotum.

With a partner, you can still concentrate on the penis, but try exploring new targets like the ears, feet, or butt.

To increase arousal, you might touch yourself while your partner attends to these erogenous regions.

Play with your prostate

The prostate is often called the “male G-spot.”

Prostate stimulation can help you climax more quickly during sex or masturbation — if you know how to approach it.

Begin by gently rubbing the external area around the anus and perineum.

If you’re comfortable with penetration, you can insert a lubricated finger and massage the inside of the anus as well.

Apply a bit of lube before inserting your finger to reduce discomfort.

As the motion becomes more comfortable, you can increase speed until you orgasm.

If using your finger is awkward or unreachable, sex toys designed for prostate play are excellent alternatives. They let you control the depth and pace and can deliver sensations your finger may not provide.

Try something entirely new

Just as switching positions and rhythms can speed up climax, experimenting with different sexual activities might also help you reach orgasm faster.

Think of sex as a playful experiment — it doesn’t need to be identical every time.

If you haven’t already, consider:

• Sending erotic messages to your partner to build shared tension.
• Picking a scenario and roleplaying to act out fantasies and kinks.
• Making noise — vocalizing pleasure reassures both of you that you’re enjoying the act and can increase arousal.
• Introducing toys and exploring new positions for varied sensations.
• Using explicit talk to tell your partner what feels good. Hearing that feedback may speed up both your climaxes.

When to see a doctor or other healthcare provider

Occasional dips in libido are normal.

But if you regularly have trouble maintaining an erection or cannot ejaculate, schedule an appointment with a clinician.

You and your provider can identify possible causes and discuss medications or therapies that may help alleviate sexual dysfunction.