A Beginner’s Guide to Masturbating with a Condom

Using a condom while masturbating — aka “posh wanking” — isn’t just wasting latex; it’s a smart solo-sex technique with a bunch of practical perks.

Is this only for people with penises?

Not at all! Masturbation isn’t exclusive to penis-owners, and neither is using a condom during solo play.

Posh wanking is for everyone! *Throws arms up and twirls*

What’s the benefit?

Honestly, it’s easier to ask what it doesn’t help with.

To get used to how condoms feel

If you’re new to sex or have an aversion to condoms, putting one on while you masturbate is a gentle way to acclimate to the texture and sensation.

This applies whether you want to become comfortable wearing condoms personally or want to learn how it feels to have a condom contact your vagina or anus by slipping one onto fingers or a toy during a solo session.

It can boost condom confidence

Fumbling to apply a condom is no big deal, but we get that it can create nerves (and kill the mood) in some moments.

If putting one on stresses you out, practicing condom application during a pressure-free solo sesh is a great confidence-builder.

It can mimic partner sex

Missing your partner because of distance or isolation? Haven’t had partnered sex in a while and crave that human connection?

Rolling a condom onto a dildo or vibrator can recreate the sensation of partnered sex you’re longing for.

If using a condom during partnered sex feels less pleasurable than solo play, this technique can help close that gap.

It can serve as sensation play

Condoms have evolved far beyond crude, chemical-soaked sheaths. Today they come in multiple sizes, textures, and special lubricants. What a time to experiment!

Varied styles are handy if you want to spice up your solo time with different sensations. Bonus: plenty of options work whether the condom’s on a penis or applied to a toy used on the vagina or anus.

It might help you last longer

Wearing a condom can sometimes prolong you and/or your erection. Changing the level of stimulation by wearing a condom may help with premature ejaculation.

If keeping an erection is a challenge, a condom that fits snugly (but not painfully tight) at the base can help, functioning in a way similar to a cock ring.

Cleanup becomes easier

One big appeal of posh wanking is the minimal mess.

Condoms during solo play just make sense — they’re excellent for catching ejaculate and are a straightforward solution for tidier anal play. They also protect sheets or furniture if you:

1. produce a lot of fluid or squirt
2. use sex toys
3. like to grind on soft furnishings or bedding
4. all of the above

Just be sure to use a new condom when switching between orifices to avoid transferring bacteria and reduce infection risk.

Safer shared masturbation

If you enjoy mutual masturbation with a partner or partners, using barriers can reduce the chance of spreading sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

When status is unclear or someone involved has an STI, cover that penis, toy, or hand to limit contact with bodily fluids or open lesions.

How do you do it?

It depends on what kind of solo or partnered stimulation you’re doing.

If you’re rolling a condom onto a penis for a hand job, extra lube helps reduce the chance of tearing during repeated strokes.

Apply a small dab of lube inside the condom, roll it on, and then add more along the shaft for smooth stroking.

The same goes for sex toys, but check that your lubricant is toy-safe. Silicone lube can degrade silicone toys, and oil-based lubricants can harm latex. For toys, water-based lubricant is usually safest.

If your rub involves contact with a partner’s body, place a flat barrier over the vulva or other areas for STI protection or altered sensation.

You can use a dental dam or fashion one from a condom by cutting off the tip and rolled edge, then slicing down one side to create a flat sheet.

How can you enhance the experience?

So many ways!

There are tons of condom styles, lubes, and toys to suit different tastes. Ready? Here we go.

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Expand your barrier collection

There are condoms designed for every solo-play need. Variety packs are smart buys if you want to sample textures and styles.

Try these variety packs:

• One Condoms One Mixed Pleasures
• Trojan Pleasure Pack

For internal stimulation tailored to the wearer, try condoms with added textures or interior lubricants like these:

• One Condoms Pleasure Plus
• Trojan Fire & Ice

For a near-commando sensation, opt for ultra-thin condoms:

• Okamoto 004
• Durex Invisible Ultra Thin

For anal play, consider extra-lubricated options:

• SKYN Elite Extra Lube
• Durex Red Extra Sensitive Extra Lubricated

To extend duration or curb premature orgasm, consider these delay condoms:

• Trojan Extended Pleasure
• Durex Prolong

If you want an all-purpose barrier, try these versatile choices:

• Royal Ultra Thin Regular or Ultra Thin Extra Large
• LELO HEX Original

Lube is key

Different lubes and amounts produce different sensations, change friction, and help prevent condom failure. And for anal play, generous lubrication is essential.

If you think all lubricants are the same, consider these options:

• Promescent Buzzing Female Arousal Gel offers a buzzing feeling. (P.S. your clit will thank you!)
• K-Y Yours+Mine Thrills & Chills features warming and tingling formulas for mutual or solo excitement.
• JO H20 Cooling leaves a refreshing cooling sensation.
• Royal Premium Lubricant is a versatile, vegan, gluten-free option that won’t disturb vaginal pH.
• Cake Tush Cush is a hybrid water-silicone jelly designed for anal play and safe for bodies and toys.

Bring toys into play

Toys are one of the best ways to elevate solo or shared masturbation.

Options are nearly endless, but choosing a multipurpose toy that can be used in several ways gives you both value and variety.

• Vibrating bullets. Small but mighty, these can stimulate the clit, perineum, balls, shaft, nipples, and more. The plusOne Vibrating Bullet is a popular pick.
• Cock rings. You don’t need a penis to use a cock ring, which makes them great for masturbation. Slip one around a dildo or plug for penetration, or around fingers for stimulation. For penis-owners, they can intensify a hand job or help prolong erection.
• Masturbation sleeves. Also called strokers, these are ideal for hand-based stimulation. Pick one with or without vibration to switch things up, and use solo or with a partner.
• Anal beads. Not just for anal play — they come in many sizes and materials and can also be used vaginally if properly cleaned. Slowly removing them near climax can heighten the orgasm.
• App-controlled toys. Techy and sexy, these let you enjoy mutual or solo play in person or long-distance.

Any special cleanup needed?

Not much — the condom catches fluids and shields toys from mess and lubricant. Simply roll it off or remove it and discard in the trash afterward.

If you’ve done anal play, involved a partner, or just want to freshen up, some extra cleaning makes sense.

Depending on how messy things got, use post-sex wipes like Lovehoney Toy and Body Wipes, or simple soap and water.

The takeaway

It might sound a bit silly at first, but channelling your inner Posh Spice and masturbating with a condom is genuinely a smart move.

It can elevate your solo routine, simplify cleanup, and let you savor the afterglow of an orgasm or settle in for a cozy nap.