Everything You Need to Know About the ‘Male G-Spot’

The prostate excels at producing quick, intense orgasms while also contributing to sperm production.

Heard whispers about the “male G-spot” and the powerful, full-body orgasms it can trigger? Turns out those rumors hold up.

Unlike the debated female G-spot, which some argue may or may not exist, this erogenous area is comparatively simple to locate.

Here’s a complete guide to finding it and how to play with it.

What is it?

The so-called “male G-spot” is often referred to as the P-spot — the “P” standing for prostate. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland situated just beneath the bladder.

This gland mainly supports reproduction by producing seminal fluid and helping sperm survive and thrive after ejaculation.

How do I find it?

You can access it in two ways: internally or externally. Both can feel amazing, so the choice depends on your comfort level (or your partner’s).

Internally

The most direct route is through the anus. The prostate sits about 2 inches inside the rectum — roughly the length of the first knuckle for an average finger.

Externally

You can also stimulate the prostate indirectly through the perineum, commonly called the taint. That’s the strip of skin between the scrotum and the anus.

No shame in choosing this less penetrative route if you or your partner prefer a gentler approach to hitting the P-spot.

How do I stimulate my partner’s prostate?

Targeting the P-spot requires clear communication, a few supplies, and some basic technique.

Talk it out

You can’t just barge into someone’s backdoor without asking, no matter how open they’ve been before. If anal play is unfamiliar to them, have a candid conversation to confirm they’re comfortable with it.

Be open and honest, but keep the tone easygoing. What excites you might not thrill them, so respect their boundaries.

Their body, their choice. Always obtain explicit consent before proceeding.

Gather essentials

You wouldn’t dive in unprepared. Here are a few items to have ready when hunting for the P-spot:

• Lube: You can’t have too much lube for anal play. A silicone-based lubricant can reduce friction and lower the risk of painful chafing or tearing.
• Barrier protection: Not the sexiest topic, but fecal matter and bacteria are facts of life. Even clean hands can harbor bacteria under the nails. Using a condom or latex glove over your finger — or an internal condom for your partner — is smart if penetration is planned.
• Anal toys: Toys aren’t required, but they can enhance prostate play. Some butt plugs are designed to target the prostate, making it easier to find the spot.
• Wipes: Optional, but useful for freshening up before and after. Choose alcohol-free wipes to avoid irritation.

Prep your hands

Wash your hands thoroughly and trim and smooth your nails so they’re short. This reduces bacterial transmission and minimizes the risk of scratches.

Set the scene

The prostate responds best when a person is relaxed and aroused. Ways to create the right atmosphere include:

• a warm bath or shower
• a sensual massage
• exploring other erogenous zones
• extended foreplay

Get started

When both partners are relaxed and ready, begin with external prostate massage.

Steps to try:

• Use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub, press, or stroke the perineum.
• Vary pressure and speed to discover what feels best.
• Use your free hand to stimulate other areas like stroking the penis or gently handling the testicles.
• Encourage feedback so they can tell you what to increase or ease off.

When they’re comfortable with more:

• Apply lube to your finger(s) and, very slowly, insert a finger an inch or two into the anus, then angle it upward toward the front of the body.
• Gently search for the prostate — it feels like a rounded, firm bump, similar to the tip of a nose.
• Once found, make a repeated “come here” motion against the prostate.
• Keep checking in: faster? slower? more pressure?
• If both are into it, simultaneous oral or manual stimulation of the penis can intensify the sensation tremendously.

got milk?

Note — massaging the prostate can sometimes cause release of a milky fluid, which is why the action is occasionally called milking.

If you notice this discharge, continue — an orgasm may be imminent.

If I’m receiving, what should I do?

If you’re on the receiving end, your job is mainly to relax and breathe. There are, however, a few things that can improve the experience.

Be communicative

Keep talking. Tell your partner what feels good and set boundaries, like whether you want only external stimulation or are open to internal play.

Use the restroom

Prostate stimulation can mimic the need to pee, and anal penetration can feel like needing to poop. Doing both beforehand can help you enjoy the experience without anxiety about accidents.

Get comfy

We all have insecurities about our bodies, including our butt and sex. Do whatever helps you feel at ease, whether that’s showering or using an enema. Or do nothing — whatever makes you comfortable.

Relax and enjoy

Focus on pleasure. Use toys, request more or less lube, change positions, and speak up if anything is uncomfortable.

What positions help reach the prostate?

With a bit of maneuvering, many positions allow prostate access. Here are three simple starters.

Facedown

How to:

• The receiver lies on their stomach with legs slightly apart.
• The giver sits beside them on the preferred side and can place a pillow under the receiver’s hips to raise the butt slightly for easier massage.

Doggy

How to:

• The receiver goes on all fours.
• The giver kneels behind to access the anus.

On the side

How to:

• The receiver lies on their side and draws one leg toward the chest.
• The giver sits behind to reach the anus.

Nothing happened — now what?

Disappointing, but not a catastrophe.

Prostate stimulation isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, and nailing the right technique can take time and experimentation. Communication will help pinpoint what didn’t work.

If both parties are willing, try again. On the next attempt, consider:

• more foreplay
• a different position
• introducing a sex toy (a vibrator can change the sensation)
• more lubricant

Other pleasure zones worth exploring

The body has many delights beyond the P-spot. Here are a few additional areas to play with.

Glans

The glans — the head of the penis — is dense with nerve endings and responds powerfully to touch, licking, and sucking.

Use lube and your free hand to give the head extra attention during prostate play. Oral stimulation and tongue work can add another layer of pleasure.

Frenulum

Don’t forget the frenulum, the sensitive ridge of skin on the underside of the penis connecting shaft and glans.

It’s highly responsive and can trigger orgasms; try light tongue flicks or gentle thumb grazing while stimulating the P-spot.

Perineum

Even when approaching the prostate internally, the perineum deserves attention.

Use a finger or a vibrating toy on this pleasure strip. Considering rimming? A tongue on the perineum can be a gentle way to test the waters or to push them over the edge while fingers or a toy target the prostate.

Scrotum

The scrotum is responsive too. Massaging the testicles while targeting the prostate can provide compounded pleasure.

Try running a finger along the scrotal raphe — the seam down the center — for a subtle but effective addition to manual or oral stimulation.

Frequently asked questions

How do I find the male prostate?

You can stimulate the prostate internally or externally. Internally, it’s reachable about 2 inches inside the rectum.

Externally, you can stimulate it by touching the perineum — the skin between the scrotum and anus.

How far up is your prostate located?

The prostate sits approximately 2 inches inside the rectum.

Where is the male prostate on the outside?

On the outside, you can target the prostate by massaging the taint — the skin between the scrotum and anus.

The bottom line

While “male G-spot” isn’t a clinical term, the prostate can live up to its reputation with some practice. Move slowly, communicate clearly, and use plenty of lubricant to find and enjoy the prostate.